Two years ago today, I was in a rather sorry state. For almost nine consecutive months, I had my head and imagination submerged in a story that seemed to come out of nowhere and everywhere, a story I was compelled to write for reasons I didn’t understand. I had three readers at the time clamoring to know what happened next, and I had precisely three chapters left to finish it. The trouble was, after spending nine months in the company of testosterone bombs, leather, darkness, Lilith, far too much sex, emotional rollercoasters and the harder fringes of rock’n’roll, I was in dire need of virtual estrogen – and thoroughly bored with testosterone.
I never suspected that would happen, either!
On the night of July 31th, I stared into a third glass of wine and had a wild idea.
I could write a perfume blog.
I’d been reading them long enough and loyally enough, learning, lemming and laughing as I went. I thought that the worst thing that could happen was it might – in some alternate, dream-on universe – improve my writing if it did nothing else. After all, how hard could it be? That night, I created Scent Less Sensibilities where my very first review was Balmain’s Ivoire, a perennial favorite even today.
Whatever my spurious reasons, the distraction tactic worked. Six days later – nine months to the day I began – I wrote ‘The End’ to my story, and to celebrate, I made a pact with myself – the kind of pact any perfumoholic will understand if no one else will.
For every defining moment in my book’s journey to publication, I would celebrate with…a bell jar.
Today, it is among my most prized possessions. I hope to see a few siblings join it soon in my perfume cabinet. Especially since I still have nine bell jars left on my wish list.
Along the way…I learned a lot, about writing, about perfume, about how I write about perfume and how to plant that passion on the virtual page. I have sniffed more marvels than I could ever have imagined in the days I had no perfume at all. Although I haven’t loved all the ones I have sniffed, I’ve liked many and love many more today than I ever have before.
What I learned
Writing about perfume is without question the most difficult writing anyone can do with the possible exception of erotica. (They’re more closely related than you think!) There were times I had to ‘park’ a review for days, weeks, or in one instance over a month and even after tearing my hair out and fifteen drafts, it still wasn’t what I really wanted to say. On one occasion, it didn’t matter what I did. My words went one way, the perfumes another. Oh, well. Next time. Or so I hope.
I learned a lot about my limitations as a writer – that no matter how I try or what I do, the writer will out before the perfume critic, and that’s just how it works for me. I admire and adore so many excellent perfume writers who do what I can’t and go where I don’t. Having said that, I could quote from one of my own reviews here. ‘I’m me. Deal with it.’ As of this writing, 65 of you do!
I learned about the astonishing generosity of the perfume community, not just in sending me samples of wonders I might not otherwise have known, but in welcoming an absolute beginner to the fray. That so many of you – perfume writers and bloggers yourselves – have done so much to welcome me, encourage me and offered your friendships along the way continues to takes my breath away even today.
I learned I had a Scent Twin! I never knew that anyone besides myself would have a love of ostentatious florals and take-no-prisoners chypres and even wipe ‘em off the floor leathers, yet I do. My admiration for Suzanne of Perfume Journal as an exceptional friend is only outdone by my certain conviction she’s twice the perfume writer I’ll ever be.
I learned to appreciate and distinguish different olfactory vocabularies and styles. I can close my eyes (I’ve tried it) and I can immediately determine who made it or conceived it, provided it’s someone whose work I’m familiar with.
I’ve learned that it is quite possible to wax impossibly purple and on occasion even inspired perfumed prose while listening to Nine Inch Nails. And Blackacidevil. As opposed to, say, Mozart. I do that sometimes, too.
I’ve learned that my samples tend to propagate while I sleep. It is so uncool to have an orgy and not invite me.
I learned to my complete dismay that there is a certain accord of notes I call ‘wet dog’ – I know no other way to describe it – which means there is an entire house I can never review, and also…that ‘wet dog’ accord is a note that terrifies me for some reason and I don’t know why. I’ve found this note in everything from mainstream – one Guerlain comes to mind – to artisanal. It’s not ambroxan or Iso E Super, because I’ve found it in al-natural perfumes as well as prestige brands.
I learned that whoever suggested layering Amouage Jubilation 25 with Serge Lutens’ Fleurs d’Oranger – each titanic perfumes in their own way – should be shot on sight without trial. Or else I should be shot for trying. I had an entire clowder of rabid, fighting, hissing cats on my skin that day.
I learned never, ever, ever, ever…to layer an Amouage. Ever. It will devour you if you do.
I learned that I will never know everything there is to know about perfume. This has been known to make me very happy.
I learned I’ll never be a 100% oud person.
I learned never to say ‘never’. Case in point: ambers. The exception? Layering an Amouage.
I learned that perfume geeks are the best people on Earth.
I learned that social media can change your life. It changed mine. Forever.
What I’ve loved
The thrill of discovery.
That perfume leads on to many roads, and some of them are paved with great intentions and amazing friendships that are based on many other things in common besides perfumes. Above all else, the people who make up my corner of Planet Perfume make me laugh, cry, howl, think and sniff something new – every day, and without them – which is to say, without YOU – my life and my world would be immeasurably poorer and smaller. Now you know.
I’ve loved meeting – in a virtual sense at least – some of the most spectacular olfactory talent on Earth. You know who you are. But do you also know how important you are to an unknown writer wannabe in BFE nowhere who is now unable to imagine life without you?
Well, you do now!
I’ve loved participating in group projects such as Clarimonde – among my own finest writing hours – and also the Devilscent Project. I have three upcoming group blog projects in the months ahead I can’t wait to begin. I love that synergy field between the same perfumes and the different interpretations, and the synergy between story and scent. I love to kick myself and think: ‘Damn! Why didn’t I think about that?’
I’ve loved reading each and every one of my favorite blogs each and every day. But I’ve hated not always having the time to comment as often or as much as I liked. But on the other hand…maybe that’s a good thing?
I’ve loved each and every comment to each and every blog post I’ve received. I still do. And I always, always will!
I’ve loved to see the name of a perfume friend light up on my phone, a friend who says “We’ll have to make this short, darling, I have so much to DO, but I just wanted to hear how you are.” Two hours later, we’re still talking. About perfume, among other things. We could happily do it for six hours more in person, I’m sure. Just as I’m sure that some day, we will.
I’ve loved each and every hilarious Twitter exchange. They’ve made many days so much better and brighter.
I’ve loved getting strange looks from my mailman. I’m sure he thinks I’m doing a sideline in something criminal, he’s just too polite to say anything about it!
Thanks to a perfume-blogging mother, Super Mario Jr. has been known to insist on wearing perfume to school. Unfortunately, the only one he’ll wear is Memoir Man. This bodes ill in about seven years.
Winning a sample draw on Ellen Covey’s blog. Her work made me the perfume writer I since became. She was my gateway into the world of artisanal perfume. She was my partner in crime with the Devilscent Project. She is also an exceptionally talented perfumer. Trust me. I know.
I owe so very, very much to Lucy of Indieperfumes. We are vastly different people but we share many, many inclinations. Without Lucy, I would have missed out on universes I would never know, marvels I would never sniff and friendships I cherish every day. Without Lucy, I would also not be what I am today.
I most emphatically owe a thank you to all of you who migrated with me after moving to WordPress, buying my own domain and carrying on where Scent Less Sensibilities left off. And to all the new readers I’ve gained since then.
It would never have been so much fun without you!
So what do you think – should we just continue down this path and see where it goes? I think so. I would love to! Especially with you! Who knows what magic carpet rides lurk ahead – or what genies we might conjure? I can’t wait to find out!
Thank you for that, too!
Since it’s my blogoversary, I have a giveaway! One lucky reader will win a carefully curated selection of samples from my collection. Anyone anywhere in the world is eligible for the draw. Just leave a comment before midnight CET on August 4th to enter. A winner will be determined by random.org on August 5th.
Original image: The Cake Genie Photoshop work, my own.
39 thoughts on “The Genie’s Split-Second Blogoversary! (with a giveaway!)”
How delightful! I love your writing. I’m new to perfumes too and I’m still learning to name the smells that make me go yum or yuck. (Can’t wear SL Fleurs d’Oranger at all…totally smells like acetone on me…and I’m saving my big Amouages for winter.)
Wow–I do not get acetone in Fleurs d’Oranger at all! To me is is heady with a gorgeous sweetness. I don’t get any of the cumin that is apparently in it either.
Tarlesio, I LOVE the cake photo! I have been enjoying your writing–thank you so much for your blog : ) And thank you for the draw!!
congrats!!! and thank you for sharing your every evolution!
Sheila, I would be beyond pleased to be associated with you in any regard, but you have no idea how happy it makes me each and every time you call me your scent twin. 🙂 Thank you for your very kind words and for your friendship. I’m glad to see from your recent Twitter feed that you sent out some query letters for your novel because I absolutely believe that Quantum Demonology will get published, and when it does I’ll be cheering you on and saying (very proudly) “I knew her when…”
Happy blogoversary!!! oxxo
I’m so happy for you. I’ve gone all misty reading that. What a wonder you are.
HAPPY FECKING BLOGVERSARY SUPERSTAR!!!
Happy Anniversary! I enjoyed your tale. I started my blog less than a year ago (initially at bnotes, then moved to blogspot), and it’s interesting to see what got others started on this infinite journey!
Happy Anniversary! I enjoyed reading your tale. I started my blog about a year ago (initially, in an inchoate form, at bnotes, then I moved to blogspot in December), so it’s very interesting to see what got others started on this infinite journey! Good luck with the book!
Congratulations on the blogoversary! No need to enter me in the draw, but I wanted to say how glad I am you still write, and how much I still enjoy reading. Hugs!
Love you honesty, open mind, warm welcome…
You are not afraid to speak you mind and it is always a thrill to read your post…
Happy Anniversary! I thoroughly enjoy all your writing and look forwards to each new post.My favorite still remains your take on Amouage Memior Man-I own it and absolutely adore it and your description of it’s effect on you opened up an even deeper appreciation of it I wasn’t aware I had.Thanks for the draw!
Happy Anniversary Sheila..Your posts have been an absolute delight to read and have actually prompted so many unsniffed full bottle purchases..
Thank you for the draw..
So sorry about those unsniffed bottle purchases! 😉 Hopefully, none you regretted? Stay tuned for more!:)
Happy Anniversary! Love your posts
Thank you for your comment, Nushecka!
Happy Blogoversary! Love the cake! Having read this terrific post, I have now learned a lot more about you than I knew previously. I hope you continue writing this blog for a long time; I enjoy reading it. Yes, I adore perfume, but for me, it is more often about the writing. Cheers!
What a wonderful post! I’m a new reader, but I just wanted to say how much I enjoyed reading about your evolution. Here’s to many more blogoversaries!
BaconBiscuit – the fun is only just starting! Since I have a much better idea of what I’m in for two years on! Thank you for enjoying my writing – and for your comment, too!
When I think back on what my blog was like in the beginning, I feel the same way: that I have a better sense of what it is “about” now.
Imagine how things are another two years from now! Can’t wait, but am going to enjoy the ride 🙂
I’ll add my “Happy Blogoversary!” to all the others, and say that our association has indeed been an interesting roller-coaster ride! I hugely appreciate all of your inspiration and and support through the many twists and turns we’ve been through, and hope that there are many more to come!
Count on it, Ellen! Mutual inspiration is a wondrous, marvelous thing! 🙂
Congratulations on your second blogoversary! And even more congratulations on getting those query letters out for the fascinating Quantum Demonology.
Right now I’m sampling Ellen Covey’s LIL. Wow! I can well imagine you got unnerved looks when you wore this out. It’s strength is amazing but also keeps drawing me in even as it pushes me away.
Looking forward to more of your wonderful impressionistic journeys with scent.
Many more impressions to come, Lindaloo! And something I’ve never done before, too! 🙂
Thanks for the shouts out Sheila! Love to see what happens next and look forward to everything you write. This time next year I bet you’ll be happier than ever and writing more outrageously and beautifully than ever.
Lucy…of course I had to give you a shout out! So much would never have happened if not for you! I really DO believe the next year will be – amazing! And I’m working on it now! 🙂
Happy Aninversary. Reading your blog is one of the things that makes my day.
I suppose that’s a good thing? 😉 Glad you enjoy it!
Happy Anniversary and many thanks for the joy you bring in our lives
and, yes, a bell jar is the best ever way to celebrate…
I enjoy so very much your blog and your style
Thank you, Irina! I’m so very glad you like my blog!
Congrats! I’d love to win.
Thank you, Amy! You’re in the draw! 🙂
Happy Anniversary, Sheila! I always enjoy reading your posts. Yours is such a unique voice and it’s wonderful to see what an inspiration you are for so many people and how your creativity triggers the creativity of others in so many ways. You always make me think or laugh or learn or dream or revalue scents… Looking forward to many more posts!
Thank you so much for your comment and for enjoying my writing, Gisela! There will be no shortage of posts to come!
Happy Blogoversary, Sheila! (I can’t believe it has been a year since the first anniversary of SlS!).
Do not enter me into the draw (my samples behave the way you described so I do not want to encourage them by inviting new players ;)) – I just wanted to say Hi and wish your blog to be in your life what you want it to be.
Thank you so much, Undina! I’ll try to make it – precisely that! 🙂
well, well, well- lovely to discover you on this steamy tennessee morning. i’ve spent the last hour glued to the site with my 6 year old son saying ‘mommy, whennnnn are you going to be dooooonnee????’ the whole time. suppose i should see to him. thanks for the distraction.
Sadly I don’t get time enough to comment on all of my favorite perfume blogs, this one included. But I discovered yours early last year as Scent Less Sensibilities and immediately fell in love with your writing style. Plus I have a former metalhead as a fiance (really still is, just in disguise) so there is that connection. Keep up the beautiful writing!
Happy Blogoversary! I am a fellow perfumista, and I admire all of those who have the time and talent to write about fragrance. All I do is smell it and wear it!
Happy anniversary!!!! Excellent blog, many more years to come!!!!
I’m just here to wish you many more happy years of sharing and lemmings, and strange looks from mailmen 😀 Happy Anniversary Dearest!